Resilience

“If you’re going through hell, keep going.”  –Winston Churchill

No one gets through life without hardships, setbacks, troubles, difficulties and sometimes even tragedy.  Resilience is the ability to bounce back from life’s challenges, to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and carry on.

It’s the ability to rise above adversity, sometimes terrible adversity such as violence, war, the loss of a loved one, loss of income, loss of household due to hurricane or flooding, or ill-health.

A key emotional intelligence skill, resilience can be learned and cultivated.  It builds on a number of other emotional intelligence and self-management skills, including personal power, optimism, agility, and having a bias for action.

Resilient people don’t let adversity define who they are.  Research on resilient people indicates they share certain qualities.  Here are 10.  They:

  1. Maintain a strong support system (friends, family and others), and are willing to accept help from others.  Others in a strong support system want to help.
  2. Practice extreme self-care.  Get enough sleep, eat healthfully, and take time for exercise and mindfulness.
  3. Define themselves from the inside out, from a place of strength and inner personal power.  They believe in themselves, and define themselves as capable, competent, and strong.  They dismiss or disregard the inner critic and instead maintain a sense of positive self-regard.
  4. They reframe the situation.  They try to find the good, the positive, the silver lining if at all possible.  One person said to me recently, “One thing I learned from all this is what an incredible array of friends I have, and how much they truly care about me.”  Sometimes they learn something about themselves and find they have grown in response to the adversity.
  5. They have the ability to manage their responses to strong emotions and impulses, and do so in a healthy manner (and not through drugs and alcohol).
  6. They are “school of life” learners, skilled communicators and problem-solvers.
  7. They view adversity as a temporary challenge, as something they will get through and come out on the other end stronger than when they went in.
  8. Similarly, they keep things in perspective.  They take the long view, the big-picture view, of life and are able to avoid thinking traps such as personalizing others’ behaviors, jumping to conclusions, or magnifying surmountable problems.
  9. Resilient people avoid seeing difficulties as insurmountable.  Rather they begin to set realistic plans and goals, and take small steps to move forward.  They have a “bias for action.”
  10. They accept change as the “new normal” – they know what is within their power to change, and what is not, and they actively work on what is.  They accept that change is part of life, and they are agile and flexible in response to change.

These are just a few tips regarding how we can support our clients in boosting their resilience.  If you would like to learn more, we are proud to announce a new course on Coaching Resilience, May 6 through June 10, 3PM ET, and proud also to introduce you to a new instructor who designed the course, Col. John Moore (Retired).

John MooreColonel (Retired) John Moore, CEO of Moore Strength Executive Leadership and Business Advisors.  John is an ICF Credentialed Professional Certified Coach (PCC) and an ACTP Certified Executive Leadership, Business, and Marketing Coach.   

As a West Point graduate, Army Officer, and Airborne-Ranger John has been leading successful organizations and developing leaders for over 30 years.

He holds a Master of Arts in Leadership Development from the US Military Academy at West Point, a Master of Arts in Strategy Studies from the US Army War College, and a Bachelor of Science from the US Military Academy where he was a distinguished graduate in the top 5% of his class.

John’s leadership in key positions within organizations ranging from 30 to 180,000 people was marked by courage and a commitment to excellence in performance and character.  He has combat experience at every level and was the operational Chief of Staff during the surge in Iraq in 2007-2008.

Upon retiring from the Army John founded Moore Strength Executive Leadership and Business Advisors where he has created models for developing exceptional leaders throughout organizations, creating positive organizational climates, and building steady business growth.

John’s broad leadership and operational experience in complex and demanding environments, leadership education, tenures as a leadership educator; trainer; and coach; and his challenging and accountable coaching approach uniquely contribute to client success and achievement.

He is trained and certified in Social and Emotional Intelligence through the ISEI and will soon be credentialed as a PCC.  He is a highly sought-after speaker and seminar leader on topics ranging from strategic planning, strategic communications, building high performance cultures, business growth, personal and organizational resilience, change management, and inspirational leadership.

The Resilient Leader:  Coaching Resilience Course Objectives

You will learn how to teach your executive coaching clients:

  • What managerial/leadership coaching is, and why and how it works
  • The tools and skills they need to develop to take a coach approach to leadership and management
  • How to conduct a coaching conversation
  • An overview of the leadership coaching process (including gathering data on performance, how to discuss and provide feedback on recent performance, how to develop an action plan for moving forward, how to implement the development / action plan and how to evaluate continued progress and performance)
  • How they can support and challenge their best performers to greater levels of success
  • How they can integrate coaching seamlessly into their everyday interactions with their direct reports
  • How they can shift their mindset from supervisor to coach

You can contact John at john.moore@moore-strength.com or by calling (913)217-5276.

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