Accepting Change

Article contributed by Christene Cronin, CC

Why do things have to change? We hear this phrase often don’t we, or do we just think it to ourselves? But what can we do about it? How can we stop change from annoying or frustrating us? It will be hard not to be affected by change with technology alone, either at home or at work.

Here is an example; the social media called Facebook made some major changes to their software, before I wrote this article. We their customers found out about it when we signed in. The first thing I read was someone’s “frustration” with it and another person’s “irritation” with it.

Or for those of you who are not into social media, what about the other ongoing changes that affect us such as; the internet, on-line banking to the self -check- out counters in stores, to telephones, smart phones, IPads, IPods, eBooks or Skype to watching TV (recording TV shows) or watching movies (Netflix) in your own home or for a more common issue the changes in weather.

So, how can we help ourselves to accept change and not allow it to upset us?

It’s called self-management (Emotional Intelligence). And here’s how you can start; ask yourself a few key questions:

What is it about this change that makes me feel this way?

Sometimes it is a fear of the unknown, which is a common reaction to change, or not having an understanding or awareness with regards to the change. Ask yourself the question over and over “why am I feeling this way?” until you get an answer.

What can I do to change the way I feel?

There is a saying “What you resist will persist”. Accepting the fact that a change has or is happening is one way of releasing the stress.  Also, what does your self-talk sound like? Are you telling yourself that you are quite capable of learning anything you want to? All it takes is a positive attitude, time and patience.

What reasons could they have for making changes?

This requires positive and sometimes creative thinking; try to “think outside the box”. For some reason our minds immediately want to criticize or judge, but then anyone can do that, can’t they? Change is usually intended to make things better. So take a moment to think about two to three positive reasons or benefits for this change and you will feel the uneasiness subside.

How can I get guidance or direction in this matter of change?

You will be amazed at how many people “want” to help others learn. Wouldn’t you if someone asked you for help? People are more than happy to pass on their knowledge to someone else. Ask a family member, neighbor, friend or colleague at work.  You can also ask for assistance from your social media group or do some research via the internet.

“The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts”.  Author Unknown

2 Responses to “Accepting Change”

  • Virg Setzer:


    Excellent article regarding Accepting Change – no very easy for most people.

    I am currently teaching Masters Level OD course to 44 graduates. A major portion of the course deals with leading and managing large scale organizational change, but this coming week I will focus on Personal Change – I will provide your article to the class as an excellent resource on accepting change.

    Very well done!


  • Excellent article, Christene. Things DO change. And hopefully they always will. We need to examine our feelings closely to see why we resist. That is not to imply that all change is inherently good, but to fear or resist change in general says more about us than it does the change itself.