Trust – Yourself and Others

Article contributed by Christene Cronin, CC

Trust encompasses many feelings and behaviors. It requires self-confidence and respect for yourself and others, just to name a few.

Fear can create a lack of trust and can hold you back. It can stop you from taking that promotion, starting a new career or writing that book you always talk about. It can be the fear you feel after making a mistake, or fear that stops you from taking action for fear of failing or looking bad in the eyes of others.

The acronym for fear is:  False Evidence Appearing Real

We often create fear in our minds through our own thoughts and beliefs which can be based on what we read or hear from others. However, beliefs are basically a thought we repeat over and over in our mind. And any belief can be changed if we choose to change it.

If you change your thoughts you can be who you want to be and you can do whatever you want to do. There is a concept about how our minds are programmed early on in life based on our thoughts and beliefs as we grow. Two books that help with this concept are:

1) Virus of the Mind by Richard Brodie

2) Change Your Thoughts Change Your Life by Dr. Wayne Dyer

Trusting yourself requires confidence in your own thinking and ability. If you are confident within your- self then others will trust in you as well?

Do you trust others? What does it take for you to trust others?

In his book The Speed of Trust, Stephen M.R. Covey defined a person of high trust as: reliable, respectful, loyal, compassionate, caring, open minded, flexible, confident and extending trust to others.

Now take that last quality; extending trust to others. For some, that can be very difficult.

One of the biggest reasons for a lack of trust is “when” someone makes a mistake. I say “when” because as much as we don’t like to admit it, we all make mistakes once in a while.  So allow others to make mistakes without retribution. Don’t be afraid to admit to others that you made a mistake, it shows you are human.  Once you can accept and admit this to yourself, you will realize that valuable knowledge can be gained by learning from our mistakes.

How you respond to a mistake can make the difference in whether others feel they can trust you. If you own up to it, respond with a confident manner that you will rectify it then you are creating a feeling of trust.

“Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.”   

  ~ Stephen R. Covey author of the book “ 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

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